I don’t know what your personal preference is for describing the different periods of your life, but I find I’m leaning towards “phases” myself.
Looking back I can clearly see all the defining moments of my life which at the time seemed so unclear. The moments that changed me very slightly but significant enough to alter my trajectory. What strikes me with such clarity is that I have had, so far *touches wood*, a very blessed life. This doesn’t mean one without loss, hardship or grief but one where these stumbling blocks were overcome. I have enjoyed so many cherished moments of unconditional love and laughter that the loss when it came was bearable because the memories continue on forever.
I am currently preparing for a new phase in my life, one which is making Dave a little emotional, yet makes me feel empowered. It is being accepting of our age and health issues. We are taking steps to make our lives easier, less cluttered and simpler. We are addressing health needs both for mental and physical balance and stability. This includes building work to make the lower floor of our house a bungalow for myself and Dave, to make our lives more comfortable and significantly easier. The wet room is something I am incredibly excited about, as well as a bedroom overlooking the garden and the decking. Our upstairs is really surplus for the pair of us but does provide for the girls, it is soon to be just their space and also a place for guests to stay.
As you can clearly see my blog layout has changed and the old blog posts disappeared ~ this is because we are downsizing in every way. The cost of my blog was too much for me to justify, I was basically paying for storage of unlimited photos and videos ~ so I downgraded which means very little storage. This necessitated having to delete all old heavily photo filled blog posts and install a new blog layout. So ~ ta da ~ here it is!
We are also looking to reduce our detrimental impact on the planet by reducing plastic use, growing our own herbs, fruit and vegetables where possible and support nature, the environment and planet in any and every way we can.
I am discovering my inner witch ~ something I wish I had embraced when I was younger. It has been a practice I have been drawn to for many years but not acknowledged or given any time to. Now I am learning, practising and embracing the craft in my own way, using my own interpretation of the Wicca path to personalise it to suit my beliefs ~ I am a solitary witch and have no desire to join a coven. I do however utilise websites and other information sources to learn more ~ especially about herbs, plants and how they can be used in the practice of health and wellness. I am currently waiting for a particular website to be back up and running to join their courses on herbology and possibly some other ones following that. If you are interested in learning and taking some courses yourself on Paganism, Witchcraft, Wicca, Mythology, Divination, Healing, and much more then take a look at The Magickal Circle School. I have saved it to my browser and keep checking on it hoping soon to see it open again so I can enrol and start the courses.
If you are wondering why I have changed my name from Crazy Purple Mama to Purple Lily then I can only say that I felt drawn to giving myself a new name to suit my inner witch ~ Purple Lily came to me so naturally and with such impact that I felt obliged to follow the feeling to change my name across the board on my social media and blog. Purple because the colour brings me power and comfort, it is a calming and strengthening colour. Lily because it is a flower of significance for me, with attachments that give me inspiration, power and strength. So now you know my reasoning ~ just fyi.
This new phase of our lives is all about removing excess belongings, clutter and baggage ~ physical, mental, personal and emotional. It’s about looking forward to a simpler, cleaner, clearer way of life. It is also a time in our lives, now our daughters are adults, when we can spend time together, travelling and exploring new places and enjoying the activities we haven’t had the time to indulge in whilst we were working parents. It is a time to spend with our parents because we are so aware of the march of time ~ life is about taking control and doing what is important.
I am learning to accept that Dave is now my “carer”, as he is in being in that role ~ now he has to take on responsibilities that used to be mine, it eats into his time and we are still adapting to the changes caused by this shift in the balance of our relationship. We are getting there but on both sides there are times when we feel a sense of loss ~ which I think is entirely natural and a process of acceptance.
To cement the beginning of these changes we have booked a 10 night all inclusive holiday to Greece in September at a quiet resort. The girls will be house and dog sitting in our absence which gives us peace of mind. THEN building work on our ground floor wet room and bedroom starts beginning of October ~ which is beyond exciting for me.
So, Dave and myself are moving upward and onward towards this new empowering phase of our lives. Appreciating the now, the moment, cherishing loved ones and making memories to hold onto in the future. We may be just in our fifties, which isn’t old but affords us the time, space and planning to ensure that our life is just as we want it when we do reach our pensioner years.
~ Blessed Be ~
x~X~x
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